As a working mom I felt the prejudice of stay at home moms that seemed to judge whether I was making the right choice for my family by working. I forgot that there would be a reverse bias when I crossed over.
I always prided myself on being a business woman with confidence and intellect. I took pride in the career I had developed. And although I have been reluctant to walk away from my job, I thought I would wear my stay at home mom career proudly in most circumstances.
Over the weekend, a working mom asked me what I did for a living. When I explained that I stayed home with my kids (decided to take my new job title out for a spin even though it’s only been my job for a week), she mentioned how she would be “bored” if she stayed home. Gulp.
I have many adjectives to describe my first week at home and bored never even slightly came up on the radar. Fun, intense, overwhelming, busy, challenging…all very good adjectives to describe my experience thus far as a stay at home mom. I have definitely not been bored.
I understand where she was coming from because I rationalized for a long time that I was not the “type” to stay at home. I realize now that that was a coping mechanism to accept what I thought was my fate. That being said, I couldn’t help but feel like my intellect was challenged by her statement.
I suspect as time goes by and I am not in the working world, my experience as a business person will become less valuable. I suspect as time goes by and I’m no longer a career person, I won’t be able to identify with people that are building their careers as well. But when she said that all I could do was look her in the eye and say what a delightful challenge each day has been in ways work could never compare.