Dear Adam,
It’s almost humorous to think of where we were seven years ago…and it’s not because I, along with two others, fainted during our ceremony. I think about those two kids who thought they knew what love, life and marriage might be about and I want to laugh at how little we knew (or even probably know now).
I always think back to those days in our lives when everything changed but we never saw it coming. That day when I met you, I woke up that morning and had no idea that my life would take a turn that it took. Thirteen years ago I was so consumed with the thought of going away to college for the first time, meeting my future husband wasn’t even close on my radar.
Now, so many years later, we are celebrating our seven years of marriage. And don’t get me wrong, I welcome any opportunity to be alone with you, but it seems silly to celebrate this day in particular. Not that pledging your life to someone in front of everyone you hold near and dear isn’t a special thing. It’s just that in so many ways that was the tip of the iceberg.
Why not celebrate that first introduction where I felt something I had never, and would never, feel again in a single interaction with a person?! Why not celebrate the day we realized that we were with the person that would be “that person” for the rest of our lives?! Why not celebrate the day we moved in with each other and have not separated since?! In so many ways, celebrating our wedding anniversary is just a way to sum it all up.
But to say that its summed up is so naive. Because the person I was, falling for the person you were, thirteen years ago is soooooo not who we are now. And to celebrate that day, to celebrate those people, is unfair to who we have evolved into, or continue to evolve to. Because who we are now and what we have now is so much more.
In celebration of our seven year wedding anniversary, tonight we will be dining child-free but we will also be going to see the 20 week ultrasound of our third child. I almost feel as if I am writing fiction saying that now. To think that those two people thirteen years ago are these two people having their third child is so abstract to me that it’s almost incomprehensible.
Our life now is so unbelievably crazy, so ridiculously challenging at times, so excruciatingly exhausting and completely and totally amazing. I’m so grateful that I have you to go through it with. And because of that, I celebrate August 21, 2005.
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Heli, your words are very beautiful and touching. You and Adam are a wonderful pair, and I wish you all that life has to offer for many more years to come. Lookig forward to hearing about our new great-niece/nephew.