Sometimes my kids can be real jerks. Not just to me, but to other people. I expect them to be jerky towards me but I don’t expect them to be jerky towards nice people walking by, family members that love them or acquaintances that I’d like them to be nice to.
It’s not like I’m expecting them to be politicians who work a room kissing babies and shaking hands. It’s when their great-grandparents want a hug and they’d prefer to sucker punch them, that I have a real problem. When an unsuspecting stranger walks by and says what beautiful children I have, I expect them to smile and not call that lovely stranger a “poopie face.” I really don’t think I’m setting the bar too high.
The real problem I have, besides the rudeness that is displayed, is who is really being judged by this behavior? Is it the sadly misguided five year old or the precious three year old? No, it’s those awful parents (i.e. the mother) who can’t seem to get control over their children. Who are raising their children in a society where they are so concerned with being their kids’ friends that there is an absence of discipline. Right?
Wrong. I am polite to help staff and friendly to passerbys. I have a nice relationship with my family where I greet them warmly. I treat people the way I want to be treated. I also run a tight ship at home. There are constant rewards being passed out for positive behavior and consequences for poor choices flowing through this house. I prep them on appropriate behavior for family before we see them, and reward/discipline after engaging. There’s literally NOTHING ELSE I can do to teach them how to be NICE!
Of course this blog may be a tad dramatic. Drew, most definitely, is shy and doesn’t like to talk to adults. Period. He has a select few he’s comfortable with but I am learning that this is either the stage at life he is in or just his personality. And no matter how much I push it, it’s not gonna change. Gabby can work a room like nobody else but much like any three year old, it has to be completely and totally on her terms. Humph!
So if you see a passerby that is complaining my kids are jerks and clearly are raised by a pack of animals…just remind them that at least that person doesn’t have to live with them 🙂