It’s not that there are less (probably the opposite), it’s that I don’t care as much. Don’t get me wrong, I’m armed with hand sanitizer 24/7 but I’ve let go and come to accept that no matter what I do they are going to be exposed to germs (and it may even be good for them). Frankly I don’t have an extra arm for the highchair/shopping cart cover and there’s no way each and every bottle is being sanitized or even hand washed for that matter!!!
I’m not walking around feeling like the queen of parenthood by any means but I can tackle certain situations with more ease this time around. For instance a trip to the grocery store with a nine month old baby would previously have raised my blood pressure. I will take a screaming infant to a five year old smashing carts into old people any day of the week. Walking in with one immobile child, I practically own the grocery store.
I throw AND catch like a girl. But I have mastered a mean juggling act in a way that having two kids I hadn’t quite grasped. I’ve got a play date needing his shoes tied, a five year old wanting water, a three year old needing to go potty and an infant having a bottle…no problem here. Ok, maybe no problem is a little rash but I’ve lived to tell the tale. And to think only a couple of years ago Gabby would need a diaper change while Drew was eating lunch and I’d break a cold sweat.
I have a huge distaste for television and media. Not in the sense that I would deprive myself some quality programming like say Keeping Up with the Kardashians or put down my phone and miss a second on Facebook. I feel strongly that kids these days are WAY TOO focused on the ipad, television and video games and don’t spend enough time using their creative minds. That being said, I really tried to keep my first born away from anything for the first two years of his life. SAY WHAT?!?! I still believe children would be better off with minimal exposure but I NEED a life line. I can no longer sweat the small stuff, so I just embrace it. Bring on the ipad, the Wii, the television, the laptop. Why shouldn’t my kids have sensory overload? I sure as heck do in just dealing with them!!!
My kids don’t exactly rule this house…who am I kidding, they are completely in charge. Anyway, I have learned that if my kids are happy, then I am happy. Oh how selfless of me, right? No. If they want an extra cookie and it will stop them from screaming for fifteen minutes, sometimes it’s just better to give it to them. Yes, it’s too much sugar. Yes, they barely ate their nutritious food. But sometimes, not all the time, it’s just easier for everyone. And that makes for one happy Mama. First time around, everything was on principle at the cost of WAY too many fights. By now I have learned not every argument is the hill I want to die on.
Don’t get me wrong, I still don’t think I know much but this much I do know 🙂